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Building Confidence in Your Toddler

Every parent would love to see their children grow up to become confident, smart and respectable human beings. Sometimes it does not work as expected. Cultivating confidence is key to their growth and development. 

1.Love them unconditionally

Give your love to them unconditionally and let them know about it, now and then. When kids know that they can count on your love and support, they will be more ready to explore new things and new stuff compared to when you keep yelling at them. Let them feel completely accepted and cared for.

2. Do not compare your kids with others

Your kids are unique in their own way and comparing them with other kids does not do them justice. This is particularly worse in the case where your kid failed in something. If you compare them with other kids, they will develop an inferiority complex pretty fast and this will affect them for a long time to come. Let them know they can be the best they set out to be.

3. Step back and let them be

You need to step back occasionally and watch from far as they explore stuff by themselves. Let them take healthy risks and only intervene if you think they will harm themselves.

4. Give deserved praise

Give praise where due. Do not overpraise them as this will bring the exact unintended results. If they succeed in something, let them know how proud you are in them. This will give them the fuel to do even better next time. After all, who doesn’t like praises?

5. Teach by example

Do not preach water and drink wine. Toddlers learn better through observation. They are always keen to see how you handle yourself in a certain scenario and this implies that you need to do as you would wish to see them do. Teach by example. Let them shadow you as much as possible. 

6. Encourage them to explore their strengths and weaknesses

Enroll them into some sort of sports activity or engage them in some form of physical activity. Let them explore their limits and their strengths. You might be nurturing love for a specific career field or igniting fire into some form of talent they possess.

7. Hear their opinions out

Everyone loves to know that their opinions are respected. The same applies to your kids. Let them know that you value their opinion by asking them what they think of something from time to time.

8. Teach them resilience and patience

Resilience is better taught through failure. When they fail in something, do not be fast in correcting them. Instead, encourage them to try again and again. They will eventually get it right and this will give them a big boost in their confidence.

9. Give them responsibilities

Kids love to feel supportive. Give them responsibilities they can handle. For instance, give them chores around the house such as cooking or cleaning.

10.   Set rules and live by them

Set rules for the home and ensure that everyone lives by them, including yourself. The toddler will understand who is in charge and start living a structured and disciplined life.

What are your tricks or suggestions for building confidence in your little one!?

Helpful Toddlers? That's a thing?!

Children, when they’re between the ages of two and four, are typically inclined to be helpful, generous and loving. While it’s true that this is the age of toddlerhood and the dreaded temper tantrums, it is also the age when children cry out for the most amount of attention. Tantrums are sometimes a direct result of inadequate attention or children being taught (albeit not consciously) that if they wail and cry they’ll get the object of their desire.

Parents and caregivers need to understand how to help children become a natural and contributing member of the household rather than constantly admonishing them. This approach will build upon the positive attributes that are inherently built into every child’s psyche.

The attributes present in every child from an early age are:

  • Willingness to help
  • Willingness to share
  • Need for self-respect
  • Need for attention and praise

Here’s how a parent or caregiver, can bring out a child’s existing inclination to do good things!

Let Children Help!

When toddlers see adults doing chores around the house, they feel inclined to join in. This is the point when most adults will caution children to be careful with admonitions such as “don’t touch or you’ll break it” or “don’t do it, it’ll create a mess”. It is imperative for adults to reverse this behavior by actually enlisting a child’s help with chores. This will help in generating positive feelings in a child and grow a toddler's confidence.

Here are some ways to encourage children to be helpful:

 ♡  Ask children for help with dusting furniture, being careful to let them dust in safe areas such as on the couch, or on the coffee table, etc. Children can use a dust rag, a tissue, or even a feather duster.

 ♡ Enlist a child’s help in laying the table using plastic cutlery and plastic table mats. Hold the child above the table if need be to accomplish this.

 ♡ Make a game of putting toys away everyday. For example, it is nearly as much fun building a Lego block as it is demolishing it block by block and tossing the blocks back inside the bag!

These techniques help enhance a toddler's built-in antennae for helping and contributing.

♡ Give Toddlers Choices

Children feel so helpless when they are restricted in what they can and cannot do. Sometimes just giving them some options that won’t hurt or harm anyone is the key to giving them some measure of control.

The solution is to give them choices!

    Pick out two outfits for young kids to wear to school and let them choose their favorite one.
    Pick out a few bedtime books and let children choose which ones will be read on a particular night.
    Choose two different fruits and ask kids which they’d like to have for a snack.

Using these techniques will help children feel good about themselves because they will realize they are part of the solution and directing some (albeit small) part of their own life!

♡ Talk To Kids Like They Understand Every Word

Talking to children seriously and using simplified logic can sometimes work wonders with testing their level of comprehension. The results can be impressive if this approach is followed through on a regular basis.

Here are some tips on talking to children:

   → While its okay to use baby talk occasionally, save it for cuddle time. Use proper English to explain and answer the endless “whys” and “hows” of a toddler.
    →Use simplified explanations. For example if a child asks “why do I have to brush my teeth?” a really simple answer would be “So that your teeth don’t turn yellow. Yellow means dirty teeth (said with a frown) and white means clean teeth! (said with a smile)”
   → Never ignore a child who is asking questions and never answer the question with a vague answer. If a parent doesn’t know the answer simply acknowledge not knowing it and then help the child find the answer (by looking it up on the net or asking someone else, etc)

♡ Treat Children With Respect

This one’s pretty straightforward. Saying “thank you”, “sorry”, and other niceties will help a child learn that he/she is someone to be respected. Self-respect grows from the respect a parent showers on the child.

♡ Showcase Desirable Behavior for Kids to Emulate

When children see an adult performing chores around the house, being polite and generally behaving well, they're likely to do the same. Children usually have one ear tuned to what adults around them are saying and doing, even when seemingly busy playing with their toys. The best way to get them to exhibit a certain behavior is for adults around them to teach by example.

Every parent should harness the positive characteristics present in children from a very young age. Too soon they may be turning into rebellious teens anyway! Therefore the best time to inculcate good behavior is in toddlerhood – this increases their chances of following the same behavior when they become adults.